Jen Hatmaker is a best selling author behind books such as For the Love, Inter-rupted, and 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess.

With full transparency, I have never read one of Jen’s books, however, I know many who have, and who claim to have gleaned some great truths from her materials. I have seen many women, whom I respect greatly, quote Jen Hatmaker, recommended her materials online, and speak well of her. I’m not here to dispute those claims, as I believe that, as with any speaker or teacher, there is always something that can be learned.

However, I recently read an interview conducted by, in which Hatmaker shared some views that are completely antithetical to the Gospel message. Due to the utter audacity and irresponsibility of her claims – said to such a large following – I personally felt as though a response was merited.

I hope my spirit comes across graciously as I walk through some of the things that were said, and present a Biblical response to the claims made. Honestly, I have no personal agenda or hatred toward Jen. Frankly, I am just concerned by the path she has chosen, and fearful for the several thousand followers and readers who will continue to walk alongside her. It’s obvious from her success that she is gifted in the area of communication, and I hope she will choose again to use that gift to proclaim God’s eternal truth, as I hear she once did while beginning her writing career.

Jen does claim to be a follower of Jesus Christ, stating on the About section of her personal website, “I love Jesus. I am absolutely that girl. I feel so tender toward Him that sometimes I think I’ll die.” She says, “[Jesus] is the standard to which I hold up everything: theology, behavior, relationships, culture, church. I love Him and I want to be like Him. I so hope to make Him proud.”

Obviously, we would consider submission to Christ and His Word to be a good thing, unfortunately, the comments made during the interview this week do not reflect an attitude of one who is submissive to Christ and His teaching.

While discussing a wide array of topics, Hatmaker was asked, “Politically speaking, do you support gay marriage?”

Before I dive into Jen’s answer, I must note that the question asked is posed incorrectly in the first place. A Christians stance on topics like homosexuality, abortion, etc. is not a matter of “political opinion” but rather a matter of Biblical adherence or the lack thereof.

Now, although the answer is phrased incorrectly, Jen’s answer is no less incorrect.

“From a civil rights and civil liberties side and from just a human being side, any two adults have the right to choose who they want to love. And they should be afforded the same legal protections as any of us. I would never wish anything less for my gay friends.”

This answer is not coming from a consistent Biblical worldview. I will list briefly why, and then continue on.

  1. Civil rights/liberties as granted by a secular government have no bearing or authority to change what has been laid out by God. (Acts 5:29)
  2. Our “human being side” is no apologetic. Our hearts and flesh are desperately wicked and corrupt, and we cannot base our moral positions on emotions or feelings. (Jeremiah 17:9)
  3. Scripturally, there is no moral “right,” as Hatmaker indicates, to forsake God’s ordained plan for the home and choose someone of the same gender to have sexual relationships with. (Romans 1:27)

Jen continues her answer saying, “From a spiritual perspective, since gay marriage is legal in all 50 states, our communities have plenty of gay couples who, just like the rest of us, need marriage support and parenting help and Christian community. They are either going to find those resources in the church or they are not.

Not only are these our neighbors and friends, but they are brothers and sisters in Christ. They are adopted into the same family as the rest of us, and the church hasn’t treated the LGBT community like family. We have to do better.”

More issues arise in the worldview presented here.

  1. Once again, legality does not determine morality. While all 50 states may allow homosexual couples to marry, in God’s eyes, it is not a true marriage. Hence, homosexual couples do not need “marriage support” and “parenting help,” they need to repent and accept the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
  2. While we may have friends and neighbors engaged in unrepentant and unbiblical sexual activity, Biblically we cannot consider them “brothers and sisters in Christ.” If they have not repented, they are not “adopted into the family.” (see: Mk. 1:15)
  3. I do believe that a large portion of the church body has acted in an utterly cruel and un-Christlike way toward the LGBT community, and we can grow in this area, but that does not mean hiding the fact that sin is sin.

Jen continued in the interview to state that she would attend an LGBT wedding, that LGBT relationships can be holy before God, and that this topic is very nuanced.

I don’t feel the need to explain further why those claims are wrong, however, let me just say, this is an area that is far from nuanced. Just like adultery and fornication are not open to interpretation, and condemned in black and white, God has spoken on the topic of homosexuality. To blur the lines or disguise the truth in this or any other area is to do damage to the Gospel message, and, in turn, give unbelievers false hope.

I love what Timothy Keller says about speaking the truth in love. “Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it. God’s saving love in Christ, however, is marked by both radical truthfulness about who we are and yet also radical, unconditional commitment to us. The merciful commitment strengthens us to see the truth about ourselves and repent. The conviction and repentance moves us to cling to and rest in God’s mercy and grace.”

I earnestly pray that Jen Hatmaker will stop manipulating what the Gospel says about sin, and use her large platform to project the truth of God’s word. She has the potential to help so many.

When we are on mission to a dying world, there is no room for love without truth, or vise versa.

In closing, I want to say a word of encouragement.
First, for those of you who perhaps read Jen Hatmaker in the past and found her to be helpful, do not feel discouraged or foolish, God can use broken sticks to draw straight lines – as some would say, this does not excuse the broken stick, but it does magnify the sovereignty and might of our God to be able to work through these circumstances.

And finally, please don’t allow this one author’s capitulation toward the culture’s standards of morality to turn you away from reading other Christian literature and growing in Christ. There are still many female authors who are writing deeply theological books and seek to proclaim the truth to women worldwide. I’d encourage you to pick up books from faithful Christian women such as Courtney Reissig, Gloria Furman, Nancy DeMoss, and many others.

Thanks for reading, God bless!

Eric Author ImageEric is a blogger, videographer, designer, and full-time missionary with Rooftop Missions. While in the US, he works to raise support to help fund pastors and orphanages in closed countries. When he is traveling internationally, he provides leadership training for national pastors, as well as documenting the trips through photography and video.

9 thoughts on ““Love Without Truth” – A Response to Jen Hatmaker

  1. This is a very good article. I love your spirit of compassion, which is Hatmaker’s language; so it makes it much more likely she will listen. I personally allow nuances of being a brother or sister of my church community for one struggling with homosexuality or very new to the faith who considers him or herself homosexual. That might be more of a relationship-focused term than technical one: God knows whether they are saved yet or not. Still, my goal of the relationship is to draw them near to Christ and help heal them of the homosexual tendencies and other heart issues as they grow.

    Here is where Hatmaker’s stance, even assuming the best possible light (the stance that seemed apparent in 2014 that it’s wrong but she wants to love them and let Christ work on them over time) becomes inherently destructive. She can’t hope to eventually disciple them in Christ because she’s already affirmed that what they’re doing is right. She hasn’t merely remained silent out of “compassion.” So, whether she is fully liberal or misguided in approach, what you and others are saying is needed for the health of the church. This is the wrong road to take and she’s likely harming a lot of her followers’ maturity and growth (especially those who struggle with this and have just heard it’s not and will never be a problem) in Christ.

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    1. I agree there is nuance when it comes to someone struggling with homosexual tendencies, just as there is someone struggling with lust, addiction, pornography etc.

      I recommend you read Messy Grace by Caleb Kaltenbach. It really helped and encouraged me in a lot of ways.

      I appreciate your comment and am as concerned as you are about Hatmaker’s destructive stance.

      Thanks for reading, (and sorry for responding so late!)


  2. So we should NOT come alongside gay parents to help them parent??? I can agree with some of what you are saying. but certainly not that we don’t help raise the next generation..


    1. I didn’t say or imply we should neglect the children of homosexuals, but that we should not label those involved in continual, unrepentant sin as “brothers and sisters in Christ” who are “adopted into the same family we are.”

      While Christians should serve others in love, a distinction must be made between how we address and label believers and non-believers.


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